Among the most difficult situations parents could ever encounter in raising a family is sexual abuse between their children. This taboo topic is one that creates significant discomfort for most people so the topic is rarely openly discussed. Unfortunately, many parents are faced with this dilemma and how they choose to deal with it can result in life-long damaging consequences for both the offender and the victim.
Sibling sexual abuse is an abuse of power. For example, a more powerful sibling who is older and stronger, who coerces a younger sibling into sexual activity. This may occur through force, threat of force, bribes or a promise of special gift to make the victim keep the abuse secret. Sibling sexual abuse does not always involve sexual contact. An older sibling may force younger children to engage in sexual activity with one another and watch. The older sibling may force a younger sibling to watch sexual activity or pornography. An older sibling may also abuse a younger sibling by repeatedly watching them in the shower or bathroom. An older sibling may force a younger sibling to watch while they masturbate. Each of these situations could be considered sibling sexual abuse.
If you are a parent and are unsure if a specific activity is sexual abuse consider the following:
Sibling sexual abuse is harmful for the following reasons:
• The victim feels pressured and trapped by the abuser. This pressure includes bribes, sexual stimulation or physical force. Self-esteem is impacted immeasurably.
If you know or suspect that one of your children is being sexually abused by a sibling, you need to intervene by contacting a professional who specializes in sexual abuse and by reporting the abuse as required by law. This can be particularly difficult for parents due to the fear of legal consequences that may result. If you allow the abuse and secrecy to continue, because you think, ‘all children experiment sexually,’ or ‘it is just a phase, they will grow out of it,’ you are no less responsible for the outcome of the sibling sexual abuse than the sibling aggressor. Thus, the damage is on-going rather than short lived. Furthermore, by intervening, you are clearly communicating the behavior is unacceptable and both children are given an opportunity to heal.
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